A latest put up on in style parenting discussion board Mumsnet has many (together with us) scratching their heads and questioning what potential justification there may very well be for this copycat behaviour.
“Am I being unreasonable?”
The poster, with username McCormick1988, writes that the names she’s used for her two youngsters, have now been mimicked by her personal sister.
She says the copycat names didn’t fear her an excessive amount of, the primary time round, however as she approaches the second matching title, she’s feeling increasingly more uncomfortable.
“I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver. DSis [Dear Sister] had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn’t care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn’t matter that much. My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he’s an Oliver. Different middle names but still! AIBU [am I being unreasonable?] to think this is a bit unfair?”
Deeper points?
When bewildered and outraged respondents to the put up questioned her relationship together with her sister and contemplated the copycat sister’s psychological well being, the mum-of-two responded explaining that her sister thinks she’s the one who stole the names.
“We get on and everything. It’s a pretty good relationship. She says I was fortunate enough to fall pregnant first and took her name. I had no idea if she was thinking of those names of not,” McCormick1988 wrote.
She mentioned her household has combined emotions about her sister’s child title decisions, and the entire scenario is making her really feel horrible.
“My mum thinks it’s ‘nice’ but then my name is my aunt’s… My dad thinks it’s a bit strange. Other family laugh, not sure what their honest opinions are. I’m actually a bit sad and I suppose that’s why I said I don’t think it’s fair,” she elaborated.
“A terrible idea”
We completely get the place she’s coming from and might’t think about having to broach this uncomfortable matter with our personal siblings.
“Of course I told her I think it was a terrible idea,” the upset mum defined, “and that’s when she declared that it has at all times been her favorite title.” She mentioned the naming similarities lengthen to the children’ center initials, too.
“I’m wondering if it’s only a coincidence or on objective. My Hayden is Hayden Robert and hers is Hayden Rose. My Oliver is Oliver John and hers might be Oliver James (already introduced on FB so undoubtedly occurring) see how the center names have the identical letter!?”
Double hassle
The overwhelming majority of Mumsnet commenters have been as confused and weirded out by this example as we’re.
“I’m not a fan of people “claiming their names” inside friendship teams and households (aka if I’ve a boy it’ll be Noah so now none of you possibly can have Noah), however when the youngsters are ALREADY HERE and she or he’s like for like copying it’s just a bit bizarre,” one wrote.
But some folks had some fascinating views on matching names.
One commenter identified that in lots of cultures, matching names have been the norm:
“In some places the name is used over and over – Ireland – Everyone is a ‘Michael’ so you have Mick, young Mick, old Mick, Couisn Mick, Uncle Mick, Mary’s Mick, Mick the butcher, One Eyed Mick etc etc – and that’s the risk you run with two people with the same name, you need a descriptor to distinguish, so the children might well be Mary’s Oliver and Jane’s Oliver, or they could be Big Oliver and Little Oliver – or it could take a turn and have Ginger Oliver, Fat Oliver, Oliver with the Cross Eyes.”
Another mentioned the identical factor has occurred in her household, nevertheless it hasn’t posed any issues, so far, resulting from geographical separation.
“Both of my Mum’s sisters named their sons Andrew. I don’t think it has ever been a problem, but then again one family live in US and the other here in England and I don’t think the cousins have actually ever met each other!”
Stephen/Steven
Another respondent, a instructor, mentioned she’d encountered a household the place a mom named two of her personal child boys very, very equally.
“I taught a kid who was her mum’s 2nd child. She had a brother a year older called Stephen. She bounded up to me a few weeks into term and said “Miss, my mum’s had the baby” (I didn’t even know mum was pg as had by no means met her – seems this was child 7). I requested her “what’s the baby’s name?” and she or he replied “Steven”. I requested her, isn’t that your large brother’s title and she or he replied “yes, but they are called after their dads”. The 7 children had 5 dads between them.”
Okayyyyy.
Me too!
The put up uncovered one other distressed mum, whose personal twin sister was planning to make use of her son’s title, Jack, for the little boy she was anticipating. Gosh.
“My twin sister is having a baby soon,” the upset twin wrote. “They are going to name him Jack, the same as my son (Jack is my brother in-law’s Dad’s name). I am v upset with them, especially as they know how I feel. I wish this didn’t upset me as much as it does, but my boy is nearly 12, and we have a v small and close family. I feel that people will talk about this, and I don’t understand why they would want to have this controversy in their lives.”
Wow. Surely this doesn’t occur all that typically? It appears unfathomable that siblings would need their offspring to have the identical names. And additionally very complicated for all concerned.
What are your ideas on this? Is it completely bizarre? Or no large deal? And have you ever ever heard of such a factor?!
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